I've started having sleepovers with one of my roommates. We often end up chatting late into the night and it's just easier to lay down in one or the other's bed rather than trekking to our respective rooms. We both also sleep more soundly when we share beds with other people.
This morning, as I dragged my body out of bed and down the stairs to my room at the heathen hour of 7am, I began to reflect on what it means to share a bed with someone. I mean, when we are asleep, that is one of the most vulnerable states we are in. All a person's defences are down and they are completely open. What does it mean to share this vulnerability with someone? What does it mean when they share it with you?
It's so deeply intimate and I'm beginning to think this is why I hated sharing a bed with anyone as a child, and why I'm so wary of sharing a bed with someone as an adult.
But sharing a bed with my roommate feels completely comfortable. Is it because we're both INFPs? Is it because we've already shared so many intimate, vulnerable conversations? Is it because we both try really hard to communicate clearly and openly with each other? Is it because we both give and receive love through physical touch?
Hmm, I think I need to gather more data in the form of sleepovers. I'll report back soon.
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