Appease

Definition of APPEASE

transitive verb

1: to bring to a state of peace or quiet : calm

2: to cause to subside : allay <appeased my hunger>

3: pacify, conciliate; especially : to buy off (an aggressor) by concessions usually at the sacrifice of principles 

I feel I've been wearing kid-gloves for the past few weeks.  I hate gloves, and now I'm taking them off.

I've had people tell me I need to be "more sensitive," "more accommodating," and "less controlling."  ...If you think I'm bad, wait until you leave the cushy Northwest and venture to the East.  I look like a cupcake compared to some of the folk walking around there.

Yet at the same time, I'm questioning the motives behind these passive/aggressive demands being made of me.  It's almost like I'm being forced to conform to the counter-culture.  And here I thought Evergreen was so progressive....  No, it's just like everywhere else, with an emphasis on being clique-ish.  I thought I had left high school....

 And it also has something to do with being an adult.  There are people who aren't 'nice' or 'considerate' or even in the realm of 'courteous'.  You work with them, they're your boss, they're your roommates, they're your family members.  Live. Learn. Deal.

But perhaps it's the individuals with whom I'm interacting....  I definitely see some toxicity in some of the relationships I have.  At least now I have the perspective and experience and wherewithal to back the truck up before I become even more emotionally invested.  It's definitely not worth the time and stress.

Life's too short to devote precious energy to those who don't deserve it.