I have been Pondering this topic for quite a while. And it's come up every week at SexyTime, a student club on campus where we discuss issues/concerns/joys surrounding sex in a positive manner. But we've yet to formally discuss it.
Anyhow, Friend and I went swimming Friday evening and had an entire conversation about which of our fiends we would have sex with. I don't know where Friend is regarding sex, but I view sex with friends as another way to express the deep affection that I do have with my friends. I remember in The Ethical Slut something about 'erotic energy' and I find that to be an interesting concept. As I establish deeper connections to my intimate friends, it's becoming more apparent (at least in my humble opinion) exactly what 'erotic energy' is and how it feels. I dunno if I'm at the point where I would actually act on these feelings I have towards a few of my intimate friends, but I feel it. And I find it enriches the friendship, because there's nothing being held back. But what about society? How does society influence how we regard friends and friendships and erotic energy that sometimes enters friendships?
I think I'm safe in saying that society does not make very much room for friends expressing their affection towards one another in a sexual fashion. The situation ends in a handful of ways: they form a long-lasting partnership; they never speak to one another again; they have awkward encounters form that point forward; they continue to have sex and gradually feelings develop. But what about the scenario where they simply remain friends and go about their daily existence? I haven't seen many examples of that one. Which leads many to believe it is not possible.
But it is!! Or at least I hypothesise that it can be. I'll try it out and let you know how it goes. :)
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